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We’re assuming, dear question-submitter, that you heard somewhere or believe that there’s a scientifically proven health benefit to urinating after sex.  Perhaps your best friend told you, “Peeing after sex will kill any STDs the guy may have had.” Or maybe you believe the act of squatting over a toilet will have a gravitational pull on your man’s sperm, making it that much harder for them to impregnate you?

There’s a whole list of urban sex legends out there, which we’ll get to later. But to answer your question, should you pee after sex…? Sure. But only if you need to.

Some people really do have an urge to urinate after sex and that sensation could be happening for a couple of reasons:

• You’re drinking too much alcohol and/or too many caffeinated beverages—both are diuretics which increase your rate of urination.
• You may actually need to ejaculate, not pee.  Some women ejaculate a white clear liquid from their urethra that is sometimes mistaken for urine. Female ejaculation is usually stimulated and associated with the massaging of the G-spot. 

If you really do have to go, go ahead! Just don’t let it become a habit that will interfere with your experience after the orgasm.  The time after sex should be a relaxing and enjoyed experience with your partner. Declaring, “I really have to pee!” and jumping out of the sack is not only unromantic, it spoils your post-sex euphoria.

Now, getting back to these sex myths. Going to the bathroom right after sex does not protect you against STDs and does not keep you from getting pregnant. Here’s why: A woman’s urethra passes urine while her vagina is the pathway for sperm (STDs and pregnancy).  Although physically close, these two pathways are completely different parts of the body, with completely different functions.  Pregnancy and STDs occur through sperm or bacteria in or around the vagina. If you’re having sex with a man, the best way to protect yourself from pregnancy and STIs is to use a condom. 

The one thing that peeing after sex can do is to deter a urinary tract infection (UTI).  Urinating right after sex can help clear your urethra of unwanted organisms that are lurking around and getting ready to become full blown infections.   Some doctors advise that if you are prone to UTIs, peeing after sex can help keep an infection from beginning.   

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Those Swiss. They tend to think of everything first. Velcro, cool watches, banking, cellophane…even Swiss Miss Hot Chocolate. Okay, so that last one was a lie.  The point is that they have been pioneers in many fields, and their latest creation is no exception—a condom specifically designed for 12 to 14-year-old boys.  

The Hotshot, as they’re calling it, was invented after a study revealed young teenage boys were regularly having unprotected sex. Nancy Bodmer, who spearheaded the research, suggested that early prevention was the best way to protect against unintended pregnancies, STDs and HIV, and thus the teenie weenie condom was born.

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Absolutely not!  Plenty of people wait till their twenties to have sex for the first time.  In fact, 20.8% of 21 year old women have not ever had sex.

Don't let movies trick you-there is no specific age you "should" lose your virginity by

As Mark Twain once said, “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter,” and this is especially true about sex.  Don’t let it bother you that you haven’t had sex yet —there’s no predetermined age that you “should” lose your virginity by.  You have to make sure you are ready emotionally and mentally. 

People have sex, and hold off on sex, for many, many reasons.  Some have sex to get it over with, some are curious, and some have sexual desires that they are ready to act on.  Some wait for religious reasons, or because they simply aren’t ready.  Some people have sex and are extremely happy that they did, while others feel regretful about having sex at that time.  Some people haven’t met the right person yet, or have but have decided to wait to have sex.  There are so many reasons and there is no one right time.  

For many people, they are still virgins simply because the occasion hasn’t presented itself yet. They are accidental virgins – there is no reason other than a lack of the opportunity.  It will happen.  And it will hopefully be a great experience. 

For those of you who are waiting because it is accidental or are waiting because you are not ready – don’t worry! You will have years and years to be sexual if you so choose.

Can you name fives movies about being a virgin?  Watch these!

1. American Pie
2. The Forty Year Old Virgin
3. The Virgin Suicides
4. The Last American Virgin
5. Losin’ It

Famous Fictional TV and Film Virgins —Look them up!

1. Doogie Howser, M.D. of Doogie Howser, M.D.
2. Dawson Leery of Dawson’s Creek
3. Donna Martin of Beverly Hills, 90210
4. Andy Stitzer of The Forty Year Old Virgin
5. Jamal Malik of Slumdog Millionaire

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We normally don’t bother to post celebrity porns—we’re more into sea creatures or naughty fruits and veggies—but this one was just too bizarre to pass up.  Being his crazy, unpredictable self, we bring you Weird Al Yankovic’s Sex Tape. You’ll never think of mailing a package the same way. And please note his socks—they’re ribbed.

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What do a  hammer, a utility knife, a hot glue gun and some sandpaper all have in common? If you were to guess “Instruments used to build a Mardi Gras float,” you would have been incorrect.  But if you had said, “Instruments used to make your own sex toys,” then you would have won the million-dollar prize!

Yes, kids, that’s right. There is now a guide out there to teach even the most craft-incompetent bunch some “easy” projects for pleasure. And you thought woodshop class was just for making those stupid wooden key racks…

There’s even a “green” section included, for all you environmental enthusiasts. Get back to nature by purchasing fruits and veggies of your choosing and having sex with them!

And by the way–this is a real book but we’re pretty sure it’s supposed to be filed under “humor” based on these reviews.

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Consensual Text is featured on Twitter and on Facebook .  Fan and follow us for info on a range of topics pertaining to sex and sexual health!Believe it or not, it is true!  There is a long list of physical benefits to having orgasms. This should truly encourage all of us to engage in some healthy and natural ways to increase our health and lower our health risks.

Orgasms relieve tension and decrease stress.  Sexual pleasure makes our heart beat, our blood flow faster, and our muscles tighten up.  Then an orgasm relaxes everything and relieves the many tensions that we often have stored up in our nervous system.

Orgasms calm your cravings:  Everyone has food craving…but not everyone knows that orgasms can calm them. Sex stimulates a natural amphetamine in our bodies that regulates the appetite!  So instead of heading into the kitchen the next time you have a craving, head into your bedroom instead.

Orgasms burn calories:  Research shows that we burn about 200 calories during sex and orgasm – the equalivant of about 15 minutes on a treadmill. Which would you rather do?

Orgasms and sex are good for the heart:  And we’re not just talking about love and romance. Sex and orgasms help keep the heart strong and healthy.  The heart is a muscle and muscles enjoy exercise.   

Orgasms boost your body’s olfactory abilities: During sex and orgasm, there is a rise in prolactin. This hormone makes the brain’s stem cells grow new neurons that help our sense of smell. 

Orgasms decrease the risk of prostate cancer:  Here is the real reason men should have lots of orgasms! An Australian study found that frequent ejaculation between the ages of 20 and 50 helps decrease the risk of prostate cancer.

Orgasms can work as natural pain management:  During orgasm, your body releases endorphins (something like morphine), which makes you feel great. Suddenly that headache or sore leg is not as painful anymore.

Orgasms help you sleep better:  The endorphins released during and right after an orgasm drop your blood pressure and create a calm relaxed, feeling–which helps you sleep.

Orgasms help the immune system:  During an orgasm, our bodies release DHEA (Dehydroepianddrosterone), which helps promote bone growth and balances the immune system. Studies show that those who have sex regularly (once or twice a week) have 1/3 higher levels of immunoglobin, an antibody that boosts the immune system and infection fighting cells.

Orgasms improve the quality of our skin:  Sexual arousal and orgasm elevates your heart rate and makes you breathe more deeply. This in turn allows more oxygen to circulate throughout the body, keeping your organs and tissues healthy, including skin tissue.  Secondly, most people perspire during sex, which helps flush out toxins and actually helps release skin-nourishing oils. Take a look at yourself after you have had a good orgasm.  You will notice you are glowing.

Remember orgasms can be enjoyed with a lover or on your own!  Here’s to your health

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There are some pretty sexually explicit foods out there. Bananas and cucumbers, for example, are very phallic edibles. And when sliced, figs and peaches can resemble female parts.

But then there are fruits and veggies like our friend, Mr. Parsnip, that we were convinced could never “be sexy.” 

We’ve been proven wrong. We bring you Huffington Post’s most Pornographic Fruits and Vegetables.

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It is definitely a-ok to have sexual fantasies! Fantasies are the most common kind of sexual experience. In fact, fantasizing helps intensify sexual arousal in 70% of the population. 

47% of women fantasize about firefighters

As far as fantasizing about people that aren’t your partner—this is totally fine, as well. Fantasizing about others is no indication that you are unhappy in a relationship. Many couples  have sexual fantasies about other people and remain faithful.  And actually, fantasizing about others is considered to be both pleasurable and a safe emotional outlet. So fantasize away!

Fantasies can be about anything or anyone you want—it’s all about creating scenes that you find extravagant, erotic and exciting. You could fantasize about your boyfriend, your girlfriend, someone you have never met, a celebrity, a composite of several people you know, or even an avatar.  Sexual fantasies are normal, healthy, and good.

Sometimes people choose not to act on their sexual desires, for many different reasons including rejection, vulnerability, and fear of being misunderstood. Maybe they feel too strange, too silly, too something, and they don’t fully express their sexual desire. So those feelings remain fantasies, which is fine, too.

Here are some fantastic fantasy facts:

• 54% of men fantasize about women in nurses’ uniforms; 47% of women fantasize about firefighters; 40% of women and men fantasize about sex with a celebrity; 6.5% of men fantasize about traffic police.; 1.7 % of women fantasize about politicians; and 0.8% of women fantasize about milkmen.
• 23% of women fantasize about same sex relationships; and 5.3 % of men fantasize about same sex relationships.
• 55% of men fantasize about threesomes and 31 % of women fantasize about threesomes.

What is one of your favorite sexual fantasies?

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National Condom Week, Feb. 14–21, is the perfect opportunity to talk with your partner about the importance of protecting each other’s sexual health.

Even if you are using another method of birth control, you may be at risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STIs). Each year, there are more than 3 million unintended pregnancies and approximately 19 million women and men contract STIs. Condoms used consistently and correctly provide the best protection against STI’s and unintended pregnancy.

Visit any Planned Parenthood health center for free PROPER ATTIRE^® condoms. Featuring chic packaging in different varieties guaranteed to please, PROPER ATTIRE^® offers both safety and style.

Make sure to check out our Condom Contest for your chance to win a’ Night of Romance” gift basket!

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Happy Condom Week!

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If there ever was a time we wanted to scream “NO!” it would be now.

While it may seem like there’s no harm in posting a sex video on the internet, it could actually haunt you for years to come…in ways that you probably haven’t even thought of, yet.

Say for example, you land an interview at your “dream” company. It’s standard practice to search the web for a candidate’s name. Nothing is off limits, including Facebook, MySpace and Twitter. And when they eventually find your video,  you’re going to be the last person they want to hire (unless of course you’re auditioning for the porn industry. Then this video might come in handy).

Then there are circumstances like Grandma doing a Google search for the family tree, old friends from college trying to reconnect with you, and your boyfriend’s parents trying to find your address and finding this instead…The list could go on and on.

The point is that although it can be exhilarating to make video of the two of you having sex and use it during other fun times, it won’t be fun to have it on the internet forever. Once it’s posted, you’ll have NO control over who sees it, who uses it, and they use it. There is no way to change your mind, nor is there any way to get it back. And nothing remains anonymous.

Sometimes it feels exciting to do things that are daring, edgy and bold. But the bottom line is that you always have control. Control means you call the last shot, you use a safe word, you make an agreement, and in this case especially, control means having an understanding between you and your lover. It is all about keeping your power and at the same time enjoying your sexual self.

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