If you are worried about STDs or pregnancy, it will interfere with those wonderful feelings of pleasure, arousal, and desire. It is so much easier to feel aroused and enjoy sex when you aren’t concerned about being safe and responsible. Fear and worry hinder all of us from being over the top with excitement.
When men are worried, they can experience premature ejaculation. When women are worried, they often lack lubrication and experience vaginal tightness. This does not help anyone enjoy sex and feel sensual.
Tips for being safer and sexier …
- Introduce condoms into your sex life (if you haven’t already) – and be creative about using them. Put the condom on your partner with your mouth, put the condom on slowly, put it on together…
- Use water-based lube-lots of it- to make sex slippery and sensual. Safer sex soars when sex feels great and wet (and the bonus is that the lube prevents the condom from breaking).
- Carry a condom if you are a woman – it is assertive and it is sexy.
- With a female condom, remember that it is made of polyurethane and is much thinner than latex making it easier to feel the “sex heat” you and your partner create.
- Talk dirty. It is a sexy turn-on. Talking about using condoms and lube can make it hot and sexy. Communication about what you like is good for the relationship – so make it fun – use sexy/naughty/hot language.
And the greatest turn-on of all: laughter. If things get a little awkward, nothing breaks the tension like humor. Besides, laughing is a natural aphrodisiac.
Use latex for all genital sex and remember … get yourself tested.
Planned Parenthood health centers across the country are offering low- or no-cost STD testing for the month of April. Use the zip code finder and get yourself tested.
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