The first thing you should do, even before talking to your new partner about STDs, is to get yourself tested—GYT! 1 in 2 young people will get a sexually transmitted disease (STD) by age 25 – and most will go undiagnosed. Many people think they are STD-free, but aren’t, thus spreading them unknowingly. Planned Parenthood, MTV, The Kaiser Family Foundation and the CDC have teamed up to change the silence with our GYT campaign. Don’t just get yourself tested, start talking about STDs and help remove the social taboos about them.
Once you’ve learned you own STD (or STD-free!)status, you are ready for the conversation with your partner. Some tips:
- Remind yourself that discussing STDs is a good thing—it shows your new partner that you care about your health and theirs, and that you are safe in the bedroom. It also shows you are mature enough to discuss intimate subjects.
- Time it Right—As GYTNOW points out, some times are better than others to have this talk. Before a big exam, while falling asleep in front of the TV, or when already naked, are all bad times to discuss STD testing. Create the time and privacy needed for this conversation.
- Start the conversation by talking about yourself –
- “I had an STD test last week because I wanted to know my status. Although I was worried about having one, I found out I don’t!”
- “I want you to know I don’t have an STD – I was tested recently. It was easy and I didn’t have to wait too long. I am glad I did it.”
- “I recently heard that 1 in 2 people who are having sex get an STD by age 25…isn’t that crazy? I’m glad I got tested.”
- Listen to your partner—the odds are they are going to feel grateful and relieved that you brought it up. However, if they do not respond, go ahead and ask them what they think about getting tested. If they show hesitation or concern, explain that you are having this conversation so that you can both stay healthy and STD-free. Remind them how much you care about them and their wellbeing.
- Suggest getting tested together—Let them know that testing is affordable, painless and extremely fast. Some tests, like Rapid HIV, produce results in 20 minutes or less. Make an appointment at any Planned Parenthood health center and go together for compassionate and confidential STD testing.
