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Good question. Getting tied up can be a fun, adventurous and super sexy experience if done acceptably. How do you do it acceptably? Well for starters, you shouldn’t just decide to chain your partner to the bedpost one night during your sex routine. Just like with everything new, consent and agreement are the first steps. So talk with your partner ahead of time before trying this at home, kids.
Control is also essential. Even though one of you is tied up, you both have to feel that you can regain control at any time. Using a safe word is a good way to do this. A safe word is a word that will always be honored by both/all of you and will mean the experience will stop right then. Pick your safe word and remind your lover of it. Words like elephant, ice cream, mercy, or radishes are examples, but find your own word and use it.
Being tied up isn’t just about hand binding. There are other ways to experience getting all tied up. A foot, one arm, feet and arms at same time, etc. Enjoy letting go and knowing you are safe and/or keeping your partner safe.
So what kind of ties should you use? How about a soft rope or a rope made out of cord, not plastic. If you’re not into the rope idea, scarves, belts, socks, tape, ties, leather, and handcuffs will also work.
You’re also going to want to experiment safely. Tying your partner to the bedpost first would be a better choice than tying him/her to a ceiling rafter.
Have fun and play with the experience – put lipstick on your boyfriend when he is tied up, or put a jock strap on your girlfriend. Dress him or her up with lace, or chaps, or leather, or pour whipped cream all over her or him. Have hot sex and also have fun.
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So exciting that you all are introducing the fun of power play! Tie-me-up and tease me games can be a great source of pleasure and fun for everyone!
I’d like to suggest a couple additional ingredients to make it even more fun and safe! If one is using rope, or ties and scarves, have a pair of safety scissors on hand in case the ties constrict and you need to get your partner out fast! And handcuffs are super hot for roleplay — “Oh officer!” — but are generally NOT recommended as restraints. They too can constrict while one is engaged in more vigorous activities, and the metal can cause injuries, not too mention bruising that might make Monday morning water cooler conversations a tad uncomfortable; softer restraints let you play on and on without worry.
And just think of the roleplay possibilities! Hot college professor and student, naughty maid, a ‘traffic stop,’ and even a classic pizza delivery guy! Have fun!