Sex drives are one of life’s greatest mysteries. Some people think about sex all day long and are ready at the drop of a hat. Others, with weaker sex drives, are much less interested in having sex. Then there are those who fall somewhere in between. All are perfectly normal.
Sex drives vary from person to person due to an infinite number of reasons: circumstance, environment, personal history, hormones, values, feelings, etc. etc. The good news is there are easy (and fun!) fixes to help your partner, or yourself, become more interested in sex.
The brain is the most important sex organ in the human body—not the clitoris, or the penis—the brain. Our brain dictates our sex drive with neurotransmitters. Dopamine, for example, works to increase our sex drive and Serotonin can decrease our sex drive.
Knowing your brain is a major player in sexual desire, use it to encourage positive feelings and reactions. Use visual, auditory, or kinesthetic stimulation to influence your brain. We know this sounds cliché, but, think positively—it can have a huge effect on your sexual desire.
Another element to increase your sex drive has to do with body image—how you feel about your body and what you say about it affects both your libido and your partner’s. When you are having sex, let go of your worries about your body – just for the moment.
Sexual satisfaction can also increase sex drive. Some tips:
- Foreplay, foreplay and more foreplay – entice him or her – get your mojo going.
- Masturbate together.
- Use lubrication to change your sex drive and sexual satisfaction.
- Reveal your fantasies to your partner.
- Try out different places to have sex – some people get charged in edgy or more public places.
- Incorporate some sex toys and different positions into your routine.
- Talk. Ask your partner what she or he would like to try – what would turn her/him.
- Leave the lights on – let your partner see you get aroused and excited.
There are also many foods that can increase your sex drive.
