Yes. Dream on.
Dreams are the language of our unconscious mind and are often a metaphor for our emotions, fears, worries, and desires. One of the most powerful human drives is sex, so it’s no surprise people often have sex dreams.
- Women dream about sex as often as men do.
- Both men and women dream about sex 8% of the time.
- Men’s sex dreams are twice as likely to involve multiple partners, and are more likely to take place in public.
- Women often dream about sex with public figures.
Dreams can also be a rich source of fantasy. Fantasies are an escape, a creative way to solve problems and, let’s face it, fun!
One question we often hear is Why am I having sex dreams about people other than my partner? Having a dream about someone you’re close to—a past lover, a friend, even a sibling (gross, we know)—does not necessarily mean what you think it means. The dream could be symbolic about your relationship or could be about something else entirely. Sexual dreams are not always an expression of desire for the person of whom you’re dreaming.
The other question we hear about sexual dreams is Can you really have an orgasm while you’re dreaming? YES!
People often have orgasms when dreaming, especially if they are in a “highly charged” sexual time (meaning they are having a lot of sex). It is normal to feel more sexual desire when you are involved with someone and it makes sense to then have more sex dreams.
There are many theories, disciplines, and people committed to dream interpretation. It’s best to not read too much into the reason for having the sex dream, but to think about what it might represent. Reflect and see if something resonates.
Sex dreams are your subconscious exercising its’ right to explore and create—so join in on the fun.
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