Exercise. It’s one of those things you “should” do a regular basis in order to live a long, healthy life. But what if we told you exercise could also improve your sex life? We bet you’d be a little more willing to hit the gym.
This video from Web MD highlights the perks of working out and explains how exercise can ultimately result in better sex. Talk about motivation.
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We’re not sure when this stat made its way into the world, but we can tell you that people have been questioning its validity for years. But, is sexual peak about desire or satisfaction? Or frequency? Or gender? Or is sexual peak about age, hormones or arousal?
Scientifically speaking, it is true that a man’s level of testosterone peaks at 18 and a woman’s level of estrogen hits its high point in the mid-to-late twenties. But peak hormonal levels don’t necessarily correlate with peak sexual performance.
If we want to talk about the frequency of orgasms, or the turn around time between orgasms, then we need to talk about age. Men seem to have their greatest frequency of orgasms in their late teens and early twenties. Women seem to have their greatest frequency and more orgasms in their late twenties through their mid forties.
But, an adult’s sexual peak, also known as their personal best, can be any age – it really just depends on the person. Energy, experience, desire, wanting to be a good lover, communicating well, and knowing how your body and your partner’s body works, all affect sexual peak. Time also plays a role—the longer people have to learn about one another’s desires and sexual responses, the greater the possibility of sexual ecstasy.
The bottom line—never assume your partner’s sexual best has come and gone simply because of age. Rather, think of it as something that has the potential to only get better with time, experience, skill, and the desire to continuously learn. Hey, who said you can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
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A few months back, we reviewed Mary Roach’s book “Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Sex and Science,” a well researched, hilarious book that answered such pressing questions as “Can you orgasm just by using your head?” and “Why doesn’t Viagra work for women?”
It seems we can’t get enough of this intelligent and witty woman. This week we bring you Mary Roach’s video, “10 things you didn’t know about orgasm.” It’s 20 minutes long, but seems to fly by, leaving you wanting even more. Enjoy!
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The first thing I want to know from you, anonymous question submitter, is your definition of “a lot” when you say your partner watches “a lot” of porn. Are we talking a few times a week? Or are we talking every-hour-on-the-hour-and-he/she-can’t-hold-down-a-job-because-of-it type of thing? 
If the first definition, then there is really nothing to worry about. It’s perfectly healthy to watch porn (as long as the people watching it are consenting adults and the movies are legal, blah, blah, blah…). Some use porn to increase sexual pleasure. Some like it as part of fore play. Some people watch it alone and some watch with their partner.
The important thing to remember is that many people are watching porn—not just your partner. As of 1992, 75% of men under 55 had used a pornographic magazine, book, sex video, or both during the year. The corresponding figure for women was 41%. In a more recent British study – 66% of women and 88% of men reported viewing pornographic material – in magazines, videos, or on the internet regularly.
Porn pictures, magazines and sex videos have pleasured people for centuries. People have viewed sexually explicit material since cave dwellers first took charcoal to a rock wall.
Porn can also increase sexual enjoyment. 89% of women who watch porn videos reported having an orgasm the last time they had intercourse. Some report porn helps them have a satisfying sex life.
AND it is also true that many couples have good, satisfying sex without the added attraction of porn.
If your partner uses porn to masturbate – remember, masturbation is a personal act and one that is enjoyable for many people. If watching porn is part of that experience it is her/his personal choice.
If the latter definition, then there’s a problem. Porn shouldn’t be getting in the way of your relationship, (or in the way of being a functioning member of society, for that matter). If you feel your partner has become obsessed with it, it’s time to talk. Although it may seem hard to do, try not to be judgmental and try to remember what we mentioned above—watching porn is perfectly normal. What’s not normal is devoting every waking minute of the day to it and shutting out the rest of the world.
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Size really doesn’t have much to do with performance. A lover focused on their partner’s desires is more important.
Good sex consists of lot more than penetration. In fact, many women do not have orgasms from penetration – more are aroused by clitoral stimulation and oral sex. Many women feel men who have smaller penises generally perform more oral sex and are more satisfying.
85% of women with male partners reported being satisfied with their partner’s penis size, while only 55% of men reported satisfaction with their own size. Try different positions if you are worried about size. Enjoy the sensations while exploring these positions. Try the rabbit ears position, the V formation, or the snake, for ultimate sensation.
Mostly, if your partner has a smaller penis, let him know you are enjoying it and give him some reassurance that size really doesn’t matter – good lovers can do all kinds of things to make you love every moment of having sex.
If you are getting into a new relationship, remember many are self conscious when they are having sex for the first or second time. Most people worry about some part of their body they think is imperfect. It is very sexy when a lover is confident ut their body shape and size.
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There is a myth that a woman’s vagina gets bigger and wider when she has a lot of sex, or a lot of partners, or lots of sex with someone who has a large penis. There is no truth to these “facts”.
Women’s vaginas vary in size, but are not so drastically different that one woman would be identifiable by a large, wide vagina, and another for a small, little vagina. Genetics do make a difference, but it is not something we can easily tell. The average size of a vagina is 3 ½ to 4 inches in a relaxed state, and 5 to 6 inches in an aroused state. A woman’s vagina does widen when she is sexually aroused, but as soon as arousal diminishes, her vagina goes back to its normal size.
The vagina is a muscle which stretches and contracts, depending on whether there is something in it or not. If a woman is having sex and she is aroused, her vagina expands to hold a penis, a dildo, a vibrator, and/or other sex toys. When the penis or the toys are removed the vagina returns to its regular size.
For most people intercourse doesn’t feel the same every time you have sex – nor does it feel the same with every partner you have. Sometimes a woman’s vagina feels tighter, sometimes loser, which is dependent on her state of arousal, not the width of her vagina.
Sometimes, after childbirth, a woman’s vagina might feel wider. With kegel exercises, that fabulous muscle can get back in shape. A woman’s vagina might also change as she ages and goes through menopause. As with other muscles, the tone of her vagina can change with age. Here’s the good news … there are exercises that can help keep that muscle in shape even as you age.
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Two very different ads about pleasure and safety….and no one gets naked! Which one do you prefer?
Here is an African condom ad, where the hot sound track “One Love” by Blue sets the steamy mood.
Multitude of condom uses in this one…and the condom is featured as an aphrodisiac!
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Here’s the good news—we all worry about how our bodies look, especially when we’re having sex. It’s a cultural problem that affects men and women alike. It makes sense if you think about it. We live in a culture of “faking it.” As Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City once pointed out, “We’ve faked our hair color, cup size, hell, we’ve even faked fur.” With all this make-believe going on, it’s no wonder people feel nervous to be their real, naked selves in the bedroom.
But the bedroom is exactly where you should be yourself. Believe it or not, when you stop worrying about the way you look and you truly let yourself enjoy a hot, erotic moment, you will be very sexy! You will also be a huge turn on to your partner.
How is this possible? Think about the way you glow during great sex. Hearing and seeing you this way will most definitely stimulate your partner.
Since letting go and forgetting about body image in the bedroom is easier said than done, here are some tips:
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Researchers recognize these stats are skewed; some people over report and some under report their experiences. For example: Heterosexual men from region X might report seven female sexual partners, but the women from that same region may only report four male partners. It can be difficult for some people to always tell the truth about sexual partners.
The thing to keep in mind is that sexual desire varies from person to person, which can reflect the number of partners one has. But this number is rarely a reflection of how good a lover someone is.
Although experience can hone sexual skills, an inexperienced person can be just as great of a lover as someone who’s a veteran, if they allow their sexual desire and feelings to show.
Don’t get too caught up on numbers. Everyone has the right to experience and enjoy a sexual life that is respectful, honest, open, and consensual, regardless of how many sexual partners they have had.
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Whoa!
It is never “normal” to bleed during sex, not even a little bit (though you may experience bleeding if your period is due, or if it comes early or unexpectedly).
Bleeding is your body’s way of telling you something is not right. If you experience bleeding, pay attention. Make an appointment with our health care team today and have it checked out.
For some women, a hormonal birth control (like the pill) could be to blame. Breakthrough bleeding is a known side effect for the first 6 months on the pill. The solution may be as simple as switching brands.
Bleeding can also be the result of trauma from abrupt stretching or tearing, or from the use of sex toys. Incorporate some lube into your routine to see if that helps.
More serious reasons for bleeding include: pregnancy; vaginal infection; an STI– including Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, or Herpes–or a benign growth on the cervix or in the uterus such as polyps. Bleeding during sex can also be caused by cancer of the cervix, vagina, vulva, or uterus.
If you bleed during sex, see a medical practitioner. Don’t ignore it, don’t take chances—you need to know why this is happening.
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